Name and Pronoun Change? Oh My!
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Name and Pronoun Change? Oh My!
Perhaps! But probably not.
Bricks Wigs and Gay Crimes is transitioning.
Will there be a name and pronoun change? Perhaps. This is my attempt at self-accountability. I’m going to write and sell a book of essays and I want you to be my beta readers. I’m committing to weekly essays. The best ones will be in this book that I’m currently holding--in the future.
Once upon a time, I made a post for Transgender Day of Remembrance
I reposted an image created by the AMAZING Kah Yangni. I used the image below to talk about how being trans is a physical expression of being free.
I believe the purpose of being human is to authentically express our limitless souls, in a limited body. Most of us can barely jump a foot into the air but as souls, we can travel limitlessly through time and space. There are so many religions and spiritual practices that talk about this. I think we scratched at it scientifically when we proved that energy cannot be created or destroyed.
I think this is why in history–in many cultures–trans people were priests and spiritual advisors. We are born with no choice but to live beyond the physical because our bodies are so different from our minds and souls.
Kah Yangni ended up using a quote from my post–which floored me. I love their work and I can’t believe I was a part of one of their pieces.
I’m bringing this up because I’ve been having trouble writing you all lately.
Sure, I’m busy with toddler duty but also, I’m tired of writing about bad news concerning trans people. I’m also tired of talking about practical ways to fight all the problems that are coming from the far-right and other misguided people.
I want to write about being free. Like I did in that post for TDoR.
The truth is, I’m surprised I’ve made it this far. I’m almost forty. Every day feels like a second chance because I’ve had so many days that were almost my last. My worst days are memories that remind me to look forward to the future. Sitting here, typing this, feeling my chonky fingers hitting the keys of my laptop, I feel the now-ness of the moment and I’m so very content.
It’s a feeling many people won’t know for their entire lifetime. People think they want to be happy. But they’re wrong. What they really want is the feeling I achieve every single day. I’ve crossed the finish line. I won! If a comet is in the sky, headed towards Earth, I’ll sit on a lawn chair on the roof and welcome it. If I win the lottery or become President, I’ll feel the exact same way. That, in my opinion, is true success.
The lessons I’ve learned are not original. Treating people the way you want to be treated isn’t exactly groundbreaking. Nor am I the first person to sit down in the lotus position and focus on breathing. But the way it was bashed into my skull would be fun to share. Who knows, it may actually benefit someone. I’d much rather write about that than what [insert bigoted garbage can with legs here] is doing.
Please, please, feel free to give feedback in the comments section or by replying to my emails. I’m going to need you to make this happen.
In other news, I’d love to share a podcast I’m listening to from TransLash. As you may know, I was once given the opportunity to write for the New York Times. It was a time right before the events of this report happened. I remember the tone of my editors changing when I attempted to pitch articles. I didn’t realize the amount of anti-transgender sentiment that was building within the organization. The podcast talks about it in detail.